A gold digger is in the relationship primarily for the money. In my opinion, she is being bought and if she were in an auction, she would sell herself to the man with the most money because a true gold digger chooses money over everything. I believe this kind of woman is just as in need of self-respect as a stripper, porn star or prostitute.
The housewife may not work for her own money because of convenience, being able to spend more time with her kids and living the old-fashioned lifestyle. However, what happens if the relationship goes sour? Will she try to work it out for the sake of her kids, get a divorce or stay because she likes the lifestyle that she lives? If she stays for the lifestyle and not for him or her kids, I think she has been bought. She is now giving the impression that a man can purchase her if he provides the lifestyle she desires. Unlike the gold digger, she is likely to consider the quality of the man. However, if the reason the marriage went sour is because he cheated, how valuable is the man's character?
Some single women determine if a man can have sex with them after a date by the amount of money a man spends on her. Is bartering any different than getting money for services other than the selected reward? I think not.
I think women consider money as the primary way for a man to show how much he loves her. Women will say to their friends, "Look, he BOUGHT me flowers... He must've SPENT a FORTUNE on that ring...." It's often about the money.
I believe it's important to determine if a man appreciates you by how he treats you. A man with a lot of money can afford to throw money away and if he knows spending money on you will allow him to get what he wants, that's all he will do. A real man will make the effort to do things he doesn't like because of you. He'll remember the little things that make you happy and will stop whatever he's doing to rescue you when you're hurt (I discuss more about true love in my poetry book that I'm releasing later this year). I think women should start determining the quality of a man by his character and not by his income.
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