For example, years ago when I went horseback riding for the first time, the employee matched me up with a horse named Mariah. She described Mariah in a way that matched my personality. The employee didn't know me obviously, but it was as if I attracted Mariah as the horse I was going to ride that day because she reflected who I am and my personal style.
It's not always a conscious behavior but something you attract. I didn't plan to meet Mariah and she probably didn't plan to meet me either but because I'm constantly attracting in my life what and who are a reflection of how I see myself in the world, we found each other.
So if you don't like some of the things or people in your life, you'll want to reevaluate your perception of yourself of who you are, who you want to be and who you are becoming in order to create the lifestyle we desire and deserve.