I believe there are two main reasons why this is a double standard. When you think of what is actually happening when you have sex, the male is physically the one who is dominant in the situation. A male is putting something inside a female, which a woman can never do to a male. She could never say, "I put it in him!" Would you allow just anybody to put something inside your body? I would hope not. No matter what position she is in, she's always "letting him have it."
The other reason for the double standard is the fact that a woman is putting herself in danger when she loses her virginity. She has to trust that the man she gives it to is not going to harm her. She is risking her life during this delicate process. So again I ask you, would you be willing to do this for anybody? A man can lose his virginity and have very little risk because it's not painful for him.. (I discuss more about this in my poetry book, Love's Diary.)
So when you think about a woman choosing to have sex with these two things in mind, it makes a lot more sense as to why there is a double standard. It's not fair but at least it makes sense. We react to our emotions, so even after understanding this perspective, you may continue to have sex with someone who is not worthy.
Although you may never know if you're making the right choice when choosing to have sex with someone, it's important that you have sex because you choose to and not because you feel like you have to.
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